Newsletter 22 – Can the Emotions of the Parents Affect the Child?


A few months ago, we went into the 6 common causes for autism found in our work using autonomic response testing. So far, we have gone into cause #6 – allergies and cause #5 – heavy metals toxicity. Today, we go into cause #4 – emotions of the parents.

Based on a research done by UCLA Children’s Hospital by Lonnie Zeitzer, MD released in 2005 and carried in Good Morning America, USA Today and the ABC Evening News: Children’s chronic pain and illness can be caused by anxiety from the parents.

This isn’t surprising, because ultimately we believe that there is a connectedness in the family which has to be addressed. There is usually a close connection between the feelings experienced by the parents, especially the mother, and the child. If the parent is confident and firm in addressing the child, the child picks up on those unconscious cues and act accordingly. Conversely if the parents have feelings like sadness, guilt, anguish and anger towards the child, this would also be picked up by the child and can express itself in unruly behavior.

“Whatever the Parents Suppress, the Children May Express.”

In our work, we deal with the root causes of disempowering emotions that the parents have which may be consciously or unconsciously influencing the child. When these are dealt with, there could be surprising improvements in the child’s behavior.

So far, most common emotion found in the parents is actually grief. You may be thinking, “Of course I will be sad, I had an autistic child!” But ah, the sadness actually originates from incidents long before this child was born. In other words, the autistic child brought out the grief that the mother already feels. Just like you cannot take something out of your pocket if there is nothing there, you cannot feel grieved unless you already have it within you.

You may be wondering, what is the mechanism for which grief of the mother can affect the child?

Besides the unconscious signals that we talked about earlier, there is another effect on a particular gene that has to be mentioned. This gene is known as the UBE3A gene and has been linked to autism. Ubiquitin-protein ligase E3A (UBE3A) is an enzyme that is encoded by the UBE3A gene. This enzyme is involved in targeting proteins for degradation within cells. This is a normal process that removes damaged or unnecessary proteins and helps keep the functionality of cells intact. Both copies of the UBE3A genes (since one comes from the mother and another from the father) are usually active all over the body. In the brain however, only the maternal copy of the genes is active. So if there is a defect in this UBE3A gene from the mother, UBE3A enzymes are not produced. Michael Greenberg and his colleagues at Harvard Medical School have identified two proteins ARC and EPHEXIN5 that are involved in synapse development. In the absence of UBE3A, the levels of these two proteins in neurons are elevated, leading to impaired synaptic function that is characteristic of autism.

Traditional medical sciences believe in the “primacy of DNA”, the idea that our lives are predetermined by the hardwiring of gene programs. Recent sciences however have recognized that the regulation of gene expression, that is the switching on and off of genes, is not a property of the genes themselves, but is controlled by environmental signals. Based on my ART testing, one of these environmental signals is the emotion of grief experienced by the mother which switches off the UBE3A gene.

It may sound like it’s irreversible, but just as an environmental signal can switch off the gene, it is possible to switch it back on, and that is one of the important parts of our work. How we do that is using a proprietary energetic intervention technique.

This component of healing the parents and thus healing the child is missing in almost all the other healing therapies, whether alternative/ complementary or behavioral therapies. Their work is almost exclusively focused on the child and not on the parents. We believe that if the child has tried many other treatments without success, this is usually part of the missing piece of the puzzle.

Below, please see one testimonial of a parent that went through the process of emotional healing with us:

“Though I knew we have a bio-electric field to us as humans, it was only through the bio-energy session that I experience that reality for myself.

When I first met Darius and Evelyn, I was actually under depression. I was amazed to see how I came out of my depression in just a month of coaching.

I was initially sceptical and puzzled as to how healing of parents will work with my daughter. However, during the process, I could intuitively see that my daughter was regressing back through the years with symptoms coming up when she was 5 years old, 4 years, 3 years and 2 years and 5 months. There were ups and downs during the process but gradually it leads to my daughter’s healing of many of her symptoms.

In that process, I also realized how I am unconsciously affecting others around me. There were several instances where we worked on specific issues and found immediate effect with my daughter. For example, the relationship between her with her sibling has been almost completely resolved, and this happened only after I have addressed my own childhood problems. Her eye contact has improved a lot and so has her awareness.

I also told Evelyn that I see my daughter and myself as one connected energy. She asked me to work on my childhood issues. Now I feel completely free from the turmoil that used to bind both of us together. I felt so free that in the last session, I told Evelyn that I don’t really feel any negative emotions towards my daughter anymore.

I would like to thank Darius and Evelyn for all the insights I had about life and also deepening my own spiritual awakening. I felt very fortunate to have met them. Realization need not always happen with a bang. It can also happen very quietly, like a flower blossoming.”  Hannah

As the year draws to a close, I would like to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! Perhaps it is a fitting time for reflection and a celebration of the gift that the child may actually be bringing to us. I continue to learn from the autistic children I treat.

With Peace,

Darius